Why only want to be married for 7 years?
I know that this is off topic for the weed control blog but it needs to be said:
My wife and I were having her wedding ring fixed again the other day. The nice young lady at the store asked: “How long have you two been married?” We answered “7 years”. The young lady then responded: “I just got engaged and I hope that I can be married for 7 years too!”. About that time my wife and I both bit our tongues not wanting to get in an argument with the nice lady that had my wife’s ring.
Why would anyone hope to be married for only 7 years. In the ceremony doesn’t the priest say: “Till death due you part.” When we marry our spouse are we making a life long bond that no man can take apart because we were sealed by God. Do you think that the problem with the divorce rate is that people have their hopes set to low. I remember when I told my friends that I was marring my beautiful wife they all joked that my life was over, no more fun and the big ball and chain around my ankle. My really close friends and those that enjoyed spending times with their families all congratulated me. Some even joked, about time. Julie and I dated for 4 years before I proposed, we knew after three and a half years that we would get married but we kept that low key. She was still in college and I did not have much money, heck, I didnt have any money. I had to put her engagement ring on layaway at the outlet jewelry store in the bad part of town.
After the announcement was made the advice came in from all the family members, “Divorce is not an option”, “Never go to bed mad at each other” and “Have a weekly date night.” were just some examples. No one told us that those things were really hard to do but we never gave up. Young couples need to know that being happily married can be hard at times, we are tested everyday. The stuff we watch on tv, read in books and see in the movies all say that divorce is okay and that it is an option when the road gets rough. My wife and I work everyday on our relationship. We never take a day off or go on vacation when working on our marriage. Do we get into arguments? Yes, and we have had some dandies. But we never give up on each other. Never going to bed mad at each other. That is some great advice! Try it, its the hardest. We have stayed up past midnight with this one, usually trying to figure out why she was mad at me. (Guys will understand this, ladies just give us a hint or a time frame on why you are mad at us. You really dont want us to list everything that we could have done to upset you.) Stay up late and talk it over and dont lie to each other and say that everything is okay when it is not just so that you can go to bed. Have a weekly date night. We struggle with this one all the time. Lately for us this one has been catching up on tv. We have no kids so this should be easy, but it is not. She works hard, three, 12 hour shifts a week and doesn’t have the same night off 2 weeks in a row. Date night doesn’t have to be expensive, dollar menu and a local park, cook dinner together, go play putt putt. Exchange baby sitting with a neighbor couple that also wants a night without kids. You can have Family Night, Julie and I were invited to a friend’s house about a year ago for this. It was wonderful, we all ate dinner together, sang, said prayers and played games. They do this every week, so I know that it can be done. They have 4 kids and are one of the happiest couples I know. And that brings us to “Divorce is not an option.” I tell you what, if you do the above things, and you really do it, don’t fake it, it wont be an option. It will never even be brought up. You may notice a trend, Faith. As much as some dont want to admit it, Faith of some kind must be present in a marriage. I was proud of my sister when she sent me a text a few years ago, How do you go about finding a Church when your beliefs are different? She is now happily married.
You may ask, well Bill, how long do you want to be married for? I don’t know, my wife and I joke sometimes, “We will be married well into our 100’s!” But why sell our selves short, I want to be married forever to the same woman I met in 1997 or 98. I cannot believe it had been that long, it seems that just yesterday that we bought our home together and that was in 2004.












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